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June 29, 2009
June 28, 2009
Happiness doesn't come ready made
For as long as I can remember, my parents have drilled into me that whatever I do in life, I should make sure it makes me happy. In my 31 years, I can proudly say I've done that, especially in my personal relationships, because one has to be careful of the company he keeps.
A person who recognizes their value; their worth, and have knowledge of self will NOT allow someone to treat them any kind of way. And I'M that type of person. I've ALWAYS been that way, and I believe because of this fact, I have been fortunate in the relationships I've developed over the years. I haven't allowed myself to be involved with people who mean me harm, whether in a friendship or intimate relationship. I have not allowed anyone to treat me in a manner not befitting of me. If you think you're going to treat me any kind of way, you have another thought coming. You're definitely in for a rude awakening. I've also never been a push over or a pussy footer, but that's not the topic of this post.
With that being said, I've never been able to live my life for another. I have done things to make others happy or make them feel good, because it was the right thing to do, and I didn't have an issue with doing so. However, I've never been able to associate myself long with anything or anyone who didn't make me happy. In any type of relationship, you each have to learn how to deal with one another. You can be honest with a friend, but when you know what their buttons are, you learn how to avoid making them upset, irritated, annoyed, etc., and you use words to say what you mean without doing so. That's called being considerate and caring about one's feelings. I'm sure all of you will agree that is what we do in personal relationships. We don't always use consideration when speaking to each other, though, and we sometimes may end up saying some things we may regret later.
Sometimes, we may let our pride and anger get in the way, instead of saying or doing the things we need to do or have forgotten about doing. When you start doing that, you will ultimately end up making someone unhappy in the way you're treating them. They won't be fulfilled and will feel unappreciated. Have you ever been guilty of doing that? I know I have at times.
My happiness within personal relationships are based on how I am treated; how I am respected and addressed, how you communicate with me and how you make me feel. If I'm not happy in one of those areas, I will let you know. If I don't appreciate how you're treating me, I will say so. If I'm giving and all you're doing is taking instead of giving AND taking, I'm going to say something. If I haven't disrespected you and you do that to me, I'm going to let you know I don't appreciate that and I won't stand for it. It may be in a way that may bruise your ego, but if I have to do it like that to get my point across, I will. Sometimes, I have to go there. I can't be gentle with everyone, because they may mistake my kindness for weakness.
I know I'm strong willed, and for some, it may be too much to handle, and it's cool. If you can't deal, it's alright with me. I know I'm not combative, but I WILL get my point across and let you know how I feel. I stand by the things I believe in.
It doesn't matter the type of relationship you have with me, friend; male/female, lover, significant other, mother, brother, sister, cousin, I'm going to open my mouth! Now, after I've let you know how I feel about something I don't particularly like in the manner you're handling me, talking to me, whatever, I expect you to do something about it. If you don't know what to do, ask me. If I can convey it to you, I will. If I can't, I'll just let you know what my issue is with whatever it is you did or said. I don't have a problem expressing myself, so I'm sure you'll be able to figure it out.
What you do with that information after it's all said and done will determine how you are handled from then on. If you do nothing about it and continue what you're doing, your standing with me will drop. I will no longer see you in the same light. If you have no regard for my feelings, why should I give a damn about you?
I believe what people don't understand is,you have to take others feelings in consideration when you do or say things, because it doesn't matter if what you think you did or said wasn't insulting, humiliating, disrespectful, or what have you. It matters to the person your actions were directed to. And if you're doing a tit for tat, trying to win an argument or you're not willing to back down SOMETIMES and let things go, you're definitely going about things the WRONG way. IMO..but I digress.
I think about how I treat people, and at the end of the day, I expect to be treated the same way. I have no tolerance for anything else. It's just draining constantly dealing with issues I feel I don't have to deal with or are unnecessary. If I continue to allow you to treat me any kind of way you want, what does that say about me? 1) I have no self esteem. 2) That I feel like I deserve to be treated that way. 3) That I don't feel I can do any better. 4) That I don't have any backbone. Definitely not me. I've never been good at pretense. I'm honorable and genuine. That's the only way I know how to be, so I'd never be able to stand for someone thinking they can just give me anything and I'll just accept it and not say or do anything about it. It's not going to happen. I don't care who you are. I'M not built that way.
I'm naturally a giver. I like to give as well as receive. I enjoy being happy. You will always see a smile on my face or hear me laughing. I love to laugh..I love life, so there is no way I'd allow someone to come into my life and cause me to be unhappy.
So when I'm being told, "My grandma said you should be happy that someone asked you to marry you, because you don't have a job," they're mistaking my worth for the value of my bank account and not the strength of my character. If a friend plans a trip with me only to have a rendezvous with her "friend" and she's married, she sadly mistaken me for another friend who has no integrity. If my man is asking me if I've ever acted WHOREISH like so many other men and women in the military have, he's insulting me, because it is INDEED an attack on my character as well as my virtue, because there isn't anything about me now or have ever been that states WHORE. That's not stuff I need in my life from anybody.
I try to choose my battles wisely when dealing with folks, and right now, my battle has been fought, but I'm not sure who is going to win. I have to decide if I have the energy to endure more.
Happiness doesn't come ready made and perfect, but whatever happiness is to you, make sure you have it in whatever relationships you have. You have to find what's missing and make it work for you, but don't settle for less. I know I won't.
There are a lot of things in life we have no control over, but we can control the type of people we let inside our world and how we live our lives.
I'm living mine on my terms and whatever I do, I will make sure I'm happy about it.
A person who recognizes their value; their worth, and have knowledge of self will NOT allow someone to treat them any kind of way. And I'M that type of person. I've ALWAYS been that way, and I believe because of this fact, I have been fortunate in the relationships I've developed over the years. I haven't allowed myself to be involved with people who mean me harm, whether in a friendship or intimate relationship. I have not allowed anyone to treat me in a manner not befitting of me. If you think you're going to treat me any kind of way, you have another thought coming. You're definitely in for a rude awakening. I've also never been a push over or a pussy footer, but that's not the topic of this post.
With that being said, I've never been able to live my life for another. I have done things to make others happy or make them feel good, because it was the right thing to do, and I didn't have an issue with doing so. However, I've never been able to associate myself long with anything or anyone who didn't make me happy. In any type of relationship, you each have to learn how to deal with one another. You can be honest with a friend, but when you know what their buttons are, you learn how to avoid making them upset, irritated, annoyed, etc., and you use words to say what you mean without doing so. That's called being considerate and caring about one's feelings. I'm sure all of you will agree that is what we do in personal relationships. We don't always use consideration when speaking to each other, though, and we sometimes may end up saying some things we may regret later.
Sometimes, we may let our pride and anger get in the way, instead of saying or doing the things we need to do or have forgotten about doing. When you start doing that, you will ultimately end up making someone unhappy in the way you're treating them. They won't be fulfilled and will feel unappreciated. Have you ever been guilty of doing that? I know I have at times.
My happiness within personal relationships are based on how I am treated; how I am respected and addressed, how you communicate with me and how you make me feel. If I'm not happy in one of those areas, I will let you know. If I don't appreciate how you're treating me, I will say so. If I'm giving and all you're doing is taking instead of giving AND taking, I'm going to say something. If I haven't disrespected you and you do that to me, I'm going to let you know I don't appreciate that and I won't stand for it. It may be in a way that may bruise your ego, but if I have to do it like that to get my point across, I will. Sometimes, I have to go there. I can't be gentle with everyone, because they may mistake my kindness for weakness.
I know I'm strong willed, and for some, it may be too much to handle, and it's cool. If you can't deal, it's alright with me. I know I'm not combative, but I WILL get my point across and let you know how I feel. I stand by the things I believe in.
It doesn't matter the type of relationship you have with me, friend; male/female, lover, significant other, mother, brother, sister, cousin, I'm going to open my mouth! Now, after I've let you know how I feel about something I don't particularly like in the manner you're handling me, talking to me, whatever, I expect you to do something about it. If you don't know what to do, ask me. If I can convey it to you, I will. If I can't, I'll just let you know what my issue is with whatever it is you did or said. I don't have a problem expressing myself, so I'm sure you'll be able to figure it out.
What you do with that information after it's all said and done will determine how you are handled from then on. If you do nothing about it and continue what you're doing, your standing with me will drop. I will no longer see you in the same light. If you have no regard for my feelings, why should I give a damn about you?
I believe what people don't understand is,you have to take others feelings in consideration when you do or say things, because it doesn't matter if what you think you did or said wasn't insulting, humiliating, disrespectful, or what have you. It matters to the person your actions were directed to. And if you're doing a tit for tat, trying to win an argument or you're not willing to back down SOMETIMES and let things go, you're definitely going about things the WRONG way. IMO..but I digress.
I think about how I treat people, and at the end of the day, I expect to be treated the same way. I have no tolerance for anything else. It's just draining constantly dealing with issues I feel I don't have to deal with or are unnecessary. If I continue to allow you to treat me any kind of way you want, what does that say about me? 1) I have no self esteem. 2) That I feel like I deserve to be treated that way. 3) That I don't feel I can do any better. 4) That I don't have any backbone. Definitely not me. I've never been good at pretense. I'm honorable and genuine. That's the only way I know how to be, so I'd never be able to stand for someone thinking they can just give me anything and I'll just accept it and not say or do anything about it. It's not going to happen. I don't care who you are. I'M not built that way.
I'm naturally a giver. I like to give as well as receive. I enjoy being happy. You will always see a smile on my face or hear me laughing. I love to laugh..I love life, so there is no way I'd allow someone to come into my life and cause me to be unhappy.
So when I'm being told, "My grandma said you should be happy that someone asked you to marry you, because you don't have a job," they're mistaking my worth for the value of my bank account and not the strength of my character. If a friend plans a trip with me only to have a rendezvous with her "friend" and she's married, she sadly mistaken me for another friend who has no integrity. If my man is asking me if I've ever acted WHOREISH like so many other men and women in the military have, he's insulting me, because it is INDEED an attack on my character as well as my virtue, because there isn't anything about me now or have ever been that states WHORE. That's not stuff I need in my life from anybody.
I try to choose my battles wisely when dealing with folks, and right now, my battle has been fought, but I'm not sure who is going to win. I have to decide if I have the energy to endure more.
Happiness doesn't come ready made and perfect, but whatever happiness is to you, make sure you have it in whatever relationships you have. You have to find what's missing and make it work for you, but don't settle for less. I know I won't.
There are a lot of things in life we have no control over, but we can control the type of people we let inside our world and how we live our lives.
I'm living mine on my terms and whatever I do, I will make sure I'm happy about it.
June 25, 2009
MICHAEL JACKSON DIES!
R.I.P. MIKE! I was ALWAYS a fan!
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/06/25/michael-jackson-dies-_n_221104.html
What is your favorite song by Michael?
Favorite album?
And I definitely can't pick just one album as a favorite. I enjoyed them all for various reasons.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/06/25/michael-jackson-dies-_n_221104.html
What is your favorite song by Michael?
Favorite album?
I can't pick just one song, but "Remember The Time" popped in my head. I knew every dance move in that video, and if it came on right now, I'm pretty sure I could still do them.
And I definitely can't pick just one album as a favorite. I enjoyed them all for various reasons.
Pants and Panties
The difference between pants and panties!
Mike was going to be married to Karen so his father sat him down for a little chat.
He said, “Mike, let me tell you something. On my wedding night in our honeymoon suite, I took off my pants, handed them to your mother, and said, Here, try these on.”
She did and said, “These are too big. I can't wear them.”
I replied, “Exactly. I wear the pants in this family and I always will.”
Ever since that night, we have never had any problems.
“Hmmm,” said Mike. He thought that might be a good thing to try.
On his honeymoon, Mike took off his pants and said to Karen, “Here, try these on.”
She tried them on and said, “These are too large. They don't fit me.”
Mike said, “Exactly. I wear the pants in this family and I always will. I don't want you to ever forget that.”
Then Karen took off her panties and handed them to Mike. She said, “Here, you try on mine.”
Mike did and said, “I can't get into your panties.”
Karen said, “Exactly. And if you don't change your smart ass attitude, you never will.”
BWAHAHAHAAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAA! Dumb ass! Men
Mike was going to be married to Karen so his father sat him down for a little chat.
He said, “Mike, let me tell you something. On my wedding night in our honeymoon suite, I took off my pants, handed them to your mother, and said, Here, try these on.”
She did and said, “These are too big. I can't wear them.”
I replied, “Exactly. I wear the pants in this family and I always will.”
Ever since that night, we have never had any problems.
“Hmmm,” said Mike. He thought that might be a good thing to try.
On his honeymoon, Mike took off his pants and said to Karen, “Here, try these on.”
She tried them on and said, “These are too large. They don't fit me.”
Mike said, “Exactly. I wear the pants in this family and I always will. I don't want you to ever forget that.”
Then Karen took off her panties and handed them to Mike. She said, “Here, you try on mine.”
Mike did and said, “I can't get into your panties.”
Karen said, “Exactly. And if you don't change your smart ass attitude, you never will.”
BWAHAHAHAAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAA! Dumb ass! Men
June 24, 2009
Is it wrong...
For a woman to break up with a man because, although, she loves him, she recognizes he may not be able to give her what she needs to stay for a lifetime?
What if they've been together 3 years?
Six months?
Three weeks?
Two days? *BLINK* *BLINK*
What if they've been together 3 years?
Six months?
Three weeks?
Two days? *BLINK* *BLINK*
June 23, 2009
Lasting Impression
Since I'll be adding more of my writing in future posts, I wanted to share one of the poems I wrote when I first started writing. I hope you like. Enjoy.
Lasting Impression
I remember lying in your arms when I would spend the night.
You used to touch me, kiss me, damn, it felt so right.
As I looked into those smokey green eyes of desire,
A deep savage need coursed through me leaving a lava trail of fire.
In, out, up, down, round and round,
Fast, then slow as our hearts beat pound for pound.
Squealing in delight as I moaned from the ecstasy of your touch,
Wanting to be even closer to you, but it never seem to be enough.
Even though this was new to me, I did not fret,
So your tender loving I'll never forget.
Lasting Impression
I remember lying in your arms when I would spend the night.
You used to touch me, kiss me, damn, it felt so right.
As I looked into those smokey green eyes of desire,
A deep savage need coursed through me leaving a lava trail of fire.
In, out, up, down, round and round,
Fast, then slow as our hearts beat pound for pound.
Squealing in delight as I moaned from the ecstasy of your touch,
Wanting to be even closer to you, but it never seem to be enough.
Even though this was new to me, I did not fret,
So your tender loving I'll never forget.
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